Build And Defend
We love the idea of building.
The thrill of starting something new. The excitement of vision, calling, purpose. The sense that we’re participating in something bigger than ourselves.
But what happens when opposition shows up?
What happens when the enemy sees what you're building and decides it’s worth tearing down?
Most people hesitate. They assume that if an idea is truly from God, it shouldn’t require a fight.
Nehemiah knew better.
Fighting for What Matters
You are where you are because of the fights you were willing to have—or the ones you avoided. It’s that simple.
Somewhere along the way, we bought into the lie that keeping the peace is the goal. But Jesus didn’t call us to be peacekeepers. He called us to be peacemakers. And there’s a big difference. Peacekeepers avoid conflict. Peacemakers step into it, take ownership, and build something better in its place.
The 4 Questions Builders Ask
Most people prefer a comfortable lie over an inconvenient truth.
They sugarcoat reality. They downplay their problems. They avoid the hard questions because hard questions demand hard answers.
But Nehemiah? He wasn’t afraid to look at the ruins.
He wasn’t a pessimist—he didn’t drown in despair. He wasn’t a naïve optimist—he didn’t pretend things were fine. He was a realist.
And reality is the foundation of every successful rebuilding effort.
The Three Kinds of People Who Never Rebuild
Some people never rebuild. Not because they can’t. Not because the opportunity isn’t there. Not because they don’t have what it takes.
They never rebuild because they never get past themselves.
When the walls of their life collapse—whether it’s their marriage, their business, their spiritual life, or their confidence—they don’t respond like Nehemiah. They don’t inspect the damage and strategize a way forward.
Instead, they fall into one of three patterns that guarantee failure.
How Poor Counseling Can Hurt Your Marriage
Today, we’re focusing on one of the most critical—and sometimes misunderstood—aspects of marital healing: seeking outside help.
Whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, toxic control patterns, or even navigating the complex terrain of a narcissistic spouse, involving the right third party can make all the difference. But how do you know where to start? And how do you find someone who can genuinely help? Let’s explore this in detail.
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Confrontation IN Marriage: How to Address Issues the Right Way
We’re continuing our blog series on What to Do When Your Marriage is in Trouble. If you haven’t caught the previous entries yet, do yourself a favor and go back to the beginning. Trust me—it’s worth it for the full picture, because all of these ideas build on each other. Today’s topic: confronting your spouse directly when issues arise—and why avoiding this step can keep you trapped in cycles of resentment, gossip, and unaddressed pain.