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How Poor Counseling Can Hurt Your Marriage

Today, we’re focusing on one of the most critical—and sometimes misunderstood—aspects of marital healing: seeking outside help.

Whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, toxic control patterns, or even navigating the complex terrain of a narcissistic spouse, involving the right third party can make all the difference. But how do you know where to start? And how do you find someone who can genuinely help? Let’s explore this in detail.

Confrontation IN Marriage: How to Address Issues the Right Way

Confrontation IN Marriage: How to Address Issues the Right Way

We’re continuing our blog series on What to Do When Your Marriage is in Trouble. If you haven’t caught the previous entries yet, do yourself a favor and go back to the beginning. Trust me—it’s worth it for the full picture, because all of these ideas build on each other. Today’s topic: confronting your spouse directly when issues arise—and why avoiding this step can keep you trapped in cycles of resentment, gossip, and unaddressed pain.

Releasing Control

Releasing Control

Welcome back! We’re continuing our blog series on What to Do When Your Marriage is in Trouble. If you haven’t caught the previous entries yet, do yourself a favor and go back to the beginning. Trust me—it’s worth it for the full picture, because all of these ideas build on each other.

Today, we’re tackling a big one: control.

(Insert dramatic soundtrack here: BUM BUM BUMMMMMMMM!)

IT’S NOT ABOUT THE DIRTY DISHES (BUT LET’S BE HONEST, IT KINDA IS)

IT’S NOT ABOUT THE DIRTY DISHES (BUT LET’S BE HONEST, IT KINDA IS)

What Causes Marriage Problems? Understanding the Root Issues


Welcome back! This is part of our blog series on What to Do When Your Marriage is in Trouble. If you haven’t had a chance to read the previous posts, be sure to go back and read the entire series for maximum effectiveness. Each blog builds on the last, giving you the tools and insights to bring healing and restoration to your relationship.

Today, we’re diving into a critical topic—what actually causes marriage problems.

Spoiler alert: it’s usually not just one thing. But the good news is, by identifying the root issues, you can start addressing them head-on and work towards building a stronger, healthier marriage.

Do You Have a Moldy Marriage?

Do You Have a Moldy Marriage?

If you’re reading this, and you are, it’s likely that either you or someone you know is facing some turbulence in their marriage.

Maybe it’s more than just the usual squabbles over whose turn it is to take out the trash, or perhaps you’ve been stuck in an unending loop of silent treatments, each one colder than the last.

Whatever the case, you're in the right place, because today, we’re diving into what to do when your marriage is in trouble, and how you can start turning things around.

Now, I know what you might be thinking: "Why should I listen to this guy? My situation is different." And you’re right—every marriage is as unique as the people in it. But here’s the kicker: the foundational issues that cause marital strife are often strikingly similar across the board. And if we can pinpoint those, we can begin to heal them.